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Tony Robbins shares the most important thing he’s learned from coaching billionaires

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Tony Robbins has coached some of the wealthiest people in the world, working with clients ranging from tennis legend Andre Agassi to President Bill Clinton.

Along the way, he’s mastered his own money — the premiere performance coach and author of “MONEY: Master The Game” went from a cash-strapped upbringing to an estimated net worth of $440 million.

In a recent episode of Lewis Howes’ podcast, “The School of Greatness,” Robbins shared a fundamental lesson he’s learned from coaching the wealthiest of the wealthy: “Who you spend time with is who you become,” he told Howes.

There’s a reason the wealthiest, most successful people tend to hang out with other wealthy, successful people.

As T. Harv Eker explains in his book, “Secrets of the Millionaire Mind,” “Successful people look at other successful people as a means to motivate themselves. They see other successful people as models to learn from. They say to themselves, ‘If they can do it, I can do it.'”

Associating with ambitious and driven individuals is also the key to staying hungry, even in the face of success, Robbins told Howes: “When I started coaching all these billionaires, there was a part of me that said, ‘I’m as smart in certain areas as they are. I’ve got to step my game up … Get around where it’s better and things will hit you.”

After interviewing more than 1,200 of the world’s wealthiest people and becoming a self-made millionaire himself, author Steve Siebold came to a similar conclusion as Robbins: “Exposure to people who are more successful than you are has the potential to expand your thinking and catapult your income … The reality is, millionaires think differently from the middle class about money, and there’s much to be gained by being in their presence.”

While often overlooked — or dismissed as elitist — your friendships could have a major impact on your financial success, and befriending wealthy people could even help you get rich. That’s not to say you should ditch your average-income friends or screen new acquaintances by net worth, but you might want to take into consideration what you can learn from the friends you have and the friends you make.

As Siebold explains, “In most cases, your net worth mirrors the level of your closest friends … We become like the people we associate with, and that’s why winners are attracted to winners.”

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6 things one of the most powerful producers in TV learned from saying ‘yes’ to everything for a year

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She owned Thursday nights on television with her hit series “Grey’s Anatomy,” “Scandal,” and “How to Get Away with Murder.”

She got to make things up for a living — something she’d thrived on since childhood.

But Shonda Rhimes was unhappy. She was overworked and unhealthy, and she didn’t feel like she was living her life to the fullest.

So she embarked on a yearlong experiment in which she’d agree to any and every request that came her way — in her personal or professional life.

As she describes in her 2015 book, “Year of Yes,” over the course of that year, she stepped out of her comfort zone and learned what it means to be truly successful. Here are six life-changing lessons she learned.

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1. You’ll never know if you can get your way until you ask

Jimmy Kimmel had been requesting Rhimes’ presence on his show, “Jimmy Kimmel Live,” for years, and Rhimes had politely declined each time.

Once her Year of Yes began, however, there was no way out. She agreed to appear on the show, except for one thing: The interview wasn’t live.

“If I have to be on TV, if I have to do something as scary as ‘Kimmel,’ Rhimes writes, “we’re going to do it my way or we don’t do it at all.”

In other words, Rhimes learned that if there’s a will, there’s a way. She’d always assumed that appearing on “Jimmy Kimmel” was out of the question for her because it had to be a live interview — and she was terrified of making a fool of herself on live television. But when her assistant communicated her request, Kimmel’s team was able to make it happen.

Rhimes was begrudgingly proud of herself for overcoming her fear: “I said yes to something that terrified me. And then I did it. And I didn’t die.”

2. Other people benefit when you get over your fears

Shortly after Rhimes, who graduated from Dartmouth College in 1991, began the Year of Yes, she received a phone call from the president of Dartmouth, asking her to give the commencement speech in 2014.

Though she was terrified, she agreed.

As she reveals in “Year of Yes,” she rewrote her entire speech during the plane ride to New Hampshire. While onstage, she calmed down when she stopped focusing on herself, and started thinking about the students in the audience as younger versions of her:

Whatever I’m going to say is not for me. It isn’t for the outside world. It doesn’t matter how people react to it or judge it. I’m not talking to anyone but these graduates sitting in front of me. This is just for them.

The speech encourages students to “be a doer, not a dreamer,” among other advice. You can watch it below:

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3. Making time for love is a priority

Perhaps the most important “yes” Rhimes uttered was in response to her youngest daughter’s question: “Mama, wanna play?”

Rhimes was heading out the door, all dressed up for a fancy event, but she kicked off her heels and sat down on the floor to spend 15 minutes playing with her three daughters.

Though she was late to the event, Rhimes writes, “That little fire inside of me has been reignited. Like magic. Let’s not get carried away. It’s just love.”

Now, she says, whenever her kids ask her to play, she says “yes.”

She urges readers to take at least 15 minutes a day to “play” — whether that means hanging out with their kids or indulging in a long bath or a manicure. In other words, those 15 minutes should be filled with love — for others or for yourself.

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Chelsea Handler says she learned her most important career lesson while waitressing in her 20s

chelsea handlerChelsea Handler is wildly successful.

In 2006, at age 31, the New Jersey native got her own talk show on the E! network; she’s authored five New York Times bestsellers; she has landed spots on Forbes’ Celebrity 100 and Power Women lists, and was named one of Time’s Most Influential People in 2012.

Most recently, the millionaire comedian and actress explored racism, drugs, marriage, and Silicon Valley in the four-part Netflix docuseries Chelsea Does.”

How did she accomplish all this — and more — by age 40?

She showed up … for almost everything.

In a recent post for LinkedIn‘s latest editorial package, “How I Launched My Career,” Handler, now 41, says she learned the importance of showing up while waitressing in her early 20s. 

I was never the best waitress, but I was always the person people called when they needed a shift covered because I would always say yes,” she writes.

“Whether that was a result of wanting to be liked from years of rejection in high school, or whether it was wanting to be dependable and reliable after years of being the opposite, I just wanted people to feel that they could count on me,” she says in her LinkedIn post, titled “I Used to Hate Doing Stand Up. Then I Discovered the Power of Showing Up.” “I didn’t want to work the extra shifts, [but it] gave me a sense of worth and reliability.”

chelsea stand upLater in life, she says her habit for dependability bled into her stand-up career. “I kept showing up. When there were only two people in the audience … I showed up and did ten minutes of material.” 

She’d also show up to “open mic nights” at coffee houses, which she “absolutely dreaded.” “I hated doing stand-up in the beginning. I couldn’t wait for a set to be canceled because no one showed, but after getting cold feet many times, I made an agreement with myself that I would show up, get up, and do my set, no matter what the circumstance,” she writes.

Once Handler showed up enough times, it became her reality, she says. “It was no longer an option to not show up. I now practice ‘showing up’ with everything I do. It has permeated every facet of my life. Whether it’s wanting to cancel a workout, a friend’s party, a public appearance, my family in New Jersey. Whatever it is, when I commit, I show up.”

And if she really can’t show up for something, she’s honest about it. “I don’t over-explain with an excuse that I’m sick or that my children are sick … because I’m not sick and I don’t have children, and all of those excuses are transparent, and you become unreliable,” she writes.

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She says over the years she’s learned to be selective about what she commits to showing up to.

“I spent the first ten years of my career saying yes to absolutely everything and then harboring resentment for having said yes in the first place,” she writes. Now she focuses on showing up “for the people in my life who deserve my loyalty” — her friends, family, and mentors. 

“Showing up shows great character,” she concludes. “And once you master the art of physically showing up, the art of mentally showing up usually takes care of itself.”

Read more about how to launch your career on LinkedIn.

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A CEO shares the surprising lesson he learned from selling his company for $4 billion

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Last November, Bob Carr signed a deal to sell his payments processing company Heartland Payment Systems for $100 a share to Global Payments, for a total of $4.3 billion.

The deal made him a very rich man, but it also taught him a surprising lesson about the meaning of work.

Both public companies in the same industry, Global Payments had a thriving business abroad but a weak influence in the US, and Heartland’s sizeable American customer base among small and midsize merchants was a perfect complement.

Carr, 70, declined a board seat and decided to step away from the company he founded in Princeton, New Jersey, in 1997. Although he hadn’t been planning to sell, Heartland’s healthy performance and the generous offer convinced him that ending this chapter in his life was worth it.

The move also required that six of his direct reports cash out of the company. Yet, while it made them much richer, it left them unhappy. The CFO, for example, made $65 million on the deal and is 60 years old, but now feels lost, Carr told Business Insider.

“I just never really appreciated that until the sale of the company,” Carr said. It made him realize how valuable it is to do something that you love.

“We didn’t always talk about how wonderful it was to always be fighting the battle every day,” he said. Once that sense of purpose was gone, they became genuinely unhappy — despite being millionaires.

As for himself, he has the Give Something Back Foundation, which he founded 15 years ago to put underprivileged students through private high school and college, to occupy his days. Around 480 kids have gone through the program, and he is working on partnerships with the likes of celebrity performance coach Tony Robbins and NBA player Dwayne Wade. The foundation’s team expanded to 10 people last year.

But once Carr has steered it in the right direction, he knows it won’t need him to be hands-on any longer, which can be a scary thought.

“The foundation could be enough to keep me busy for the next 15 years,” he said, but “I suspect it won’t be.” The idea of spending the rest of his life on the golf course or in front of a television is out of the question. Even the idea of a week-long vacation feels wrong, he joked.

That’s why he’s in the planning stages of another company in the community banking space. He said that this moment in his life showed him that he still hasn’t lost what an early mentor called his “race with death.”

Carr grew up in a struggling working class family in Lockport, Illinois, to parents who both hated their jobs. Carr said that when he lost his religious faith as a young man, he decided that he needed to fit in as much as possible in the time he was given in life, and his experience as a child made him want to create his own business that would in turn give employees a job they could be proud of.

As he grew older, he stopped being driven by an increasing paycheck and instead became motivated by having an impact, he explained.

Even though the sale of his company was bittersweet, he feels assured by the prospect of both enhancing his foundation and creating something new.

“When I was in high school I thought, ‘OK, I see these 60-year-old people out there, and it doesn’t seem like they have that happy lives. They’re not proud of what they did. And I don’t want to be that way,'” he said.

“My greatest achievement is not building a $4.3 billion company — which shocks me to this day that it got that big — it’s having all these people doing great things,” he said, referring to the Heartland’s 4,600 employees. “It’s not just that we have great jobs; we’re doing great work. We’ve been changing the lives of 300,000 customers. Creating technology, doing things that have never been done before — it’s cool. It’s a privilege, too.”

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Barack Obama explains what he learned from scooping ice cream as a 16 year old

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President Barack Obama looks back fondly on the summer of 1978, spent behind the ice cream counter of a Baskin Robbins near his grandparents’ Honolulu home — even though at the time, he saw it as a threat to his basketball career, he wrote in a LinkedIn post on Thursday.

“Rows and rows of rock-hard ice cream can be brutal on the wrists,” he wrote. “As a teenager working behind the counter at Baskin-Robbins in Honolulu, I was less interested in what the job meant for my future and more concerned about what it meant for my jump shot.”

“My first summer job wasn’t exactly glamorous, but it taught me some valuable lessons,” Obama said. “Responsibility. Hard work. Balancing a job with friends, family, and school.”

It was 16-year-old Obama’s first job, and even though financial aid helped him attend the esteemed, expensive Punahou School, he didn’t begin working until the summer before his senior year of high school.

It’s part of the reason why his administration is launching the Summer Opportunity Project, he wrote, a national program to get teenagers into their first jobs, to teach them the value of hard work and keep them out of trouble when school’s out.

“And while I may have lost my taste for ice cream after one too many free scoops, I’ll never forget that job — or the people who gave me that opportunity — and how they helped me get to where I am today,” Obama wrote.

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